One of the best things that happened to me is working with a metronome. I use this little tuner, with a built-in metronome. When I first started working with a metronome I felt imprisoned and chained up by it, and I couldn't get in a pocket with it, and that was because I wasn't used to playing that strong and rigid of a time. But once I got used to playing with a metronome, it set me free. I really enjoy playing with a metronome now. But, like all of us, I think you'll find when you first start doing it that the metronome slows down all of the time, but it's not, it's us speeding up. We've just got to make ourselves stop and be aware of what we're actually doing. Let me say that one of the best things to help you as a musician is to record yourself and have a listen, see what you sound like. It's a way of having you help yourself. Be honest and hear the things you know you need to work on. Time takes a while to develop, but it's part of your arsenal that you will need.